No Homo

**I planned on writing this post in August, but I completely forgot. I often say, the readers are the ones who help to shape the content of the blog. Recently, I was reminded to tackle this subject.**

     I honestly don’t know why people care about things that have nothing to do with them. If two people of the same sex decided to be intimate with one another, let them. Their lifestyle does not interfere with anyone else’s life.

I will be the first to admit, gay jokes are funny. Straight men call each other “gay” all the time, and it is done in jest. (Please don’t tell me that I am wrong, and that gay jokes are hurtful to gay people. I am not politically correct. Stop being so sensitive and tell straight jokes! For more about the jokes, read my previous entry, titled Six Flags, posted on August 10th.)

The problem with these types of jokes is when people use gay slurs to put down homosexuals. Homophobia is unacceptable. People who say homosexuality is unnatural are under-informed. There are many species which practice gay sex; it is natural. (This is an irrefutable fact!)

That being said, there is a dumb quote being floated around Twitter. Allow me to paraphrase, “Homosexuality exists in over 1500 species, homophobia only exists in one.” Like any other genius Twitter quote, this one is unfounded. Yes, homosexuality is natural, but how can we possibly know whether or not homophobia exists in other species? For all we know, straight lions give gay lions a hard time! (I believe straight lions are homophobic creatures, and their behavior has to be stopped!)

Homophobia is something that doesn’t make any sense to me, especially when blacks and Jews are homophobes. How can you know the history of the struggle to overcome the slave trade and the Holocaust, and allow yourself to support any form of discrimination? (As a History Major, these are the people who truly baffle me. And I consider myself “un-baffle-able!”)

Sometimes, the biggest homophobes are people who are desperately trying to remain in the closet. Comedian Ron White tells a great joke about homophobia. Ron’s brother is anti-gay and an outspoken homophobe.

Ron: “All men are gay to some degree.”

Brother: “Bullshit!”

Ron: “Ok, I’ll prove it to you. Do you watch porn?”

Brother: “Hell yeah!”

Ron: “Do you only watch lesbian porn?”

Brother: “No. I like to watch a guy bang the crap out of a slut.”

Ron: “When you watch porn, do you like to see a guy bang a chick with a limp dick?”

Brother: “No, I like a hard cock!” [The brother realizes what he just said. Ron White is hilarious!]

I grew up a Catholic and my upbringing taught me to believe that gay people were sinners. Part of my road to atheism was paved by the realization that gay people are simply people; an individual’s sexual preference has nothing to do with who they are. History has taught me that homophobia is a fairly recent phenomenon. The Greeks and Romans practiced homosexuality on a regular basis. I am not going to get into the historical record, but basically the ancients were mostly bisexual. Even the leader of the Olympian gods, Zeus, slept with men. Are you not familiar with the story of Zeus and Ganymede, the Trojan boy? (Feel free to research the information if you have an interest in the topic!)

It was difficult for me to consider someone unmanly, when history’s greatest conqueror was gay. Of course, I am referring to the Macedonian leader, Alexander the Great. One of my favorite professors at UMass Boston is named William A Percy; he is openly gay and in his seventies. His classes were always interesting because Professor Percy spoke his mind and refused to be politically correct. As you can imagine, there were some students who complained, but his tenured status made him untouchable. (The guy needs his own reality show!)

Another former professor, Michael B. Chesson, endorsed a book called The intimate world of Abraham Lincoln. The book was written by C. A. Tripp, who concluded that Abraham Lincoln was a homosexual. (That’s something that the conservatives would probably kill over!)

My time at Seton Hall University also opened my eyes to the realities of the world. One of my good friends shared a suite with “Gay Dan.” At first, I was uncomfortable with Dan, but I quickly realized that he was just a student like any other. Getting to know people is the best way to break down ignorant stereotypes. At the gym, there was a gay guy who was a pretty good basketball player. Some of the people gave him a hard time and refused to pick him, but I always welcomed him on my five and we won most of the games. It’s a shame what ignorance can do to people. (The old adage, “don’t judge a book by its cover,” has been around for ages because it’s true. Get to know people and you’ll gain a better perspective on life!)

That being said, there was one incident at the park here in Roxbury. A guy showed up with no shirt on and cyclist tights. Let’s just say, he scored every time he touched the ball; there is such a thing as tolerance, but wrong is wrong. (Wearing nothing but tights to play basketball is plain old wrong!)

The bible is very clear when it comes to the subject of homosexuality. In the book of Leviticus, chapter 20 verse 13, it is stated clearly, “If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them shall be put to death for their abominable deed; they have forfeited their lives.” The problem is the fact that the bible was written by man. If you understand the history of the people who wrote the “holy book,” you would understand why homosexuality is banned. The Hebrew cities were often ransacked by the ancient Greeks. The women and children were captured as slaves, while the men were raped in order to emasculate them. (If the men in your tribe were raped, you would probably be against homosexuality as well!)

Religion is the great separator of man. Believers are taught to hate anyone who is different. There are too many parents who disown their children once they announce their true sexuality. I could never be a part of a faith that teaches me to hate my child; hate speech is wrong, even if the guy spewing the venomous talk is wearing a cross on his fancy robe. (Don’t ever forget; he is just a guy!)

At the end of the day, most of the people who are against homosexuality do it out of fear. I am not talking about the fear of gays; I mean the fear of their own hidden desires. Ask the disgraced former Evangelical pastor, Ted haggard. He hated gays from the pulpit, but was caught paying a man for sex while using methamphetamines. (Do you ever wonder what secrets are in your pastor’s closet?)

There is much debate over the “gay gene.” I don’t believe there is a gay gene, but scientists will eventually solve the mystery. I just don’t think that people are born gay. Humans will adapt to their environment. People who live in Japan love eating raw fish because they grew up in an environment which accepted the practice. Someone who lives in a rural town in Mexico may be repulsed by raw fish. The difference is the fact that the “good book” doesn’t speak negatively about eating raw fish, so sushi may seem foreign and weird to some, but it doesn’t get the Jesus-folk riled up. If the bible had a verse which disallows the eating of uncooked fish, sushi restaurants would be targeted by most Christians. (I haven’t looked into it, but there probably is some verse about not eating raw fish, or at least there is a verse which can be translated to mean such!)

Intolerance comes from ignorance. I am talking about the Lack of knowledge. People often use the word ignorant to mean, asshole or jerk, but that is a misuse of the word. Gays often say, “I didn’t choose to be gay.” That may be true, but I never understood the reasoning for such a claim. Choosing who you want to be intimate with does not give people the right to be hateful. Just because you don’t like something, doesn’t make it wrong. (Isn’t it funny how most religious people will hate gays because of the bible, but will have unprotected sex without blinking an eye?)

As far as gay marriage is concerned, I don’t have a problem with two people of the same sex getting hitched. The reason most people are against gay marriage is due to religious beliefs; I guess I just don’t have that problem. If two people fall in love and want to spend their lives together, who cares if they are homosexuals? “But ‘god’ created Adam and eve, not Adam and Steve.” That would be great if “god” existed! Most of the anti-gay marriage talk comes from people who are unhappy with their own love-lives so they try to prevent others from being happy. (I thought marriage was about falling in love; I guess I was wrong!)

Furthermore, when it comes to a gay couple adopting a child, I’m all for it. There are too many children in this world who lack the necessary unconditional love and parental guidance. Why not allow gay couples to adopt? What’s the worst that could happen; the child grows up to be gay? The only problem with being gay is the fact that most straight people are hateful. A child will be better off with gay parents, than some of the children who are born to a straight couple. I would personally prefer two gay dads, to a drug addicted/prostitute mother and a drug dealer/pimp father. (I’m weird that way!)

Being tolerant doesn’t make you gay; it makes you a decent human being. Allow people to be themselves and treat everyone with respect–unless you’re a god-fearing person. It’s perfectly fine to hate others as long as it’s done in the name of the “almighty!” (There’s a reason the last statement sounds ridiculous!)

My favorite Christian anti-gay slogan is, “I don’t hate gays; ‘god’ does.” What a wonderful and peaceful ideology. Another great quote from the book of Leviticus is, chapter 19 verse 18, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.” (I guess the part about, “unless he or she is gay,” is understood!)

I’ll leave you with a joke for all of the homosexual citizens of the world. It goes like this, “god” is good; all the time!


Published by Peter Teixeira

First and foremost, I enjoy writing stories. I recently completed my first novel, and I successfully co-wrote a short film script, which won the grand prize in the words made easy competition.

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  1. Let me start off I don’t hate Gay people. I’m girls cause is openly gay. He babysits for us, and when I come home its just Me, him and me Son. I’ve took him to the store. So people probably taught we were gay couples with an adopted kid.

    I was don’t care of the big deal gay people do…I am a struggling Father. Sure my standard of live is a lot better then some. I applied for some aid…I went out after my surgery, (my girl wasn’t working at the time.) I was deny help when I needed my government. But the Gays get all the benefit, only because of the sexual preference. (sorry I didn’t see that on the application) Right, but the government is scared to deny them benefits, so there won’t be a discrimination lawsuit. Gay abuse there power that’s what I don’t like.

    And don’t talk about my GOD Zeus…..I’m pretty sure after he slept with that dude he said “No Homo!”

    1. I’m sure if you sat with your babysitter, you’d hear more stories about discrimination than you would about benefits. Gays have it tough in this world.

      HA HA! “No homo” doesn’t work on everything!

  2. St. Cecilia in the Back Bay held a Gay Pride service, although originally cancelled by the archdiocese it eventually happened. Progress is being made slowly but surely. We just need more posts like this, fag bag.

  3. This is a great post! really! But here’s how I feel. Bible was written by men inspired by God. You focus a lot on the old testament which back in the days their laws and customs were crazy, I admit, some of those things I don’t agree with but that’s why Jesus came to get rid of all of that. I’m sure you’ve read the New Testament, Jesus lived amongst the prostitutes, lepperds, and all those people who were considered to be sinners and he was looked upon as a bad guy. The religious people were against him, that’s why He died on the cross but ressurected, to give people a new hope and a new lifestyle. If you are a true believer (not religious) should not hate the gay. They are not sinners! Their behavior is a sin!. But only God can judge them not believers. I don’t agree with gay marriage because it is meant to be men and women but I can only form an opinion, I still don’t have to agree with it but hoping my behavior towards them is not condiscending.(what would Jesus do) I agree with you on “I don’t think people are born gay…they adapt to their environment” very very true so why hate the gay…In terms of adopting I agree with you. There are people who should not have children, drug addicts, and children don’t choose the type of parents they have. If a gay couple has the capability of raising a child and provide all their needs and are appropriate caretakers, why not. However, that child should not be forced to be gay or lesbian if he or she does not want to…..I can tolerate them, I don’t hate them just what they do I don’t garee with…

    1. Thanks!

      No one should ever be forced to do anything. I can understand not agreeing with the gay lifestyle or being against gay marriage, but it is important to allow people to live as they please. After all, Christians would not be happy if they were told they couldn’t worship Jesus.
      I think there are some great messages in the “Jesus’ addition” to the bible, but I don’t believe any of the stories actually happened.

      Thanks for sharing!

  4. Great post! One of my closest friends is a homosexual and while he embraces his sexuality, every day he has to struggle with the ignorance of others. I can’t imagine being hated on because of the man I choose to be with unless his last name was Bin Laden or Hitler (read Peter’s post on his thoughts on those two!)

    The one thing where we disagree is that you don’t think people are born with this way and that they have a choice in the matter. I don’t think environment plays a role in it. Just speak to gay men who grew up watching their fathers having affairs with 3 to 4 women at a time or homosexuals that grew up in an environment where people don’t even speak about homosexuality. How then did their environment influence them? Easy, it didn’t. They were born with the desire to be with the same sex. When did you learn to check out women? You didn’t learn it. One day girls stopped having cooties and you started thinking they were hot. No matter how many older siblings or cousins you had around you acting like total fools when the opposite sex was around if you didn’t already have something inside of you to make you like the opposite sex you wouldn’t have.

    On another note, one of the things that bothers me most about homophobic people is when they say: “I don’t care what they do behind close doors just don’t go flaunting it in public” To those people I say: Agreed, as long as you don’t go around flaunting your ignorance in public. Live and Let Live!

    1. Thanks!

      I agree that there issomething inside of people which determines their preference. I don’t think people choose to be gay. I think there are many factors which influence preference. A child can watch his father being with many women and decide that he wants to make a man happy the way the women make his father happy. He can also be influenced by his father’s absence. If dad is out playing around, that would leave mom home alone. If a boy is left around women, then he will naturally begin to like what they like.
      If mom is happy pleasing men, then the boy will want to do the same. It’ not something that is done consciously. It is just a learned behavior.
      Influences can also come from being around a babysitter or from television.
      Proof of this hapens all the time in prisons. Men who are completely straight, go to prison for life sentences and become comfortable being homosexual. Their environment changed and influence their preferences.
      I don’t want to completely discount a biological effect, because I did see a documentary which claimed that a pregnant female body will fight against a male baby, trying to change the sex to female. The suggestion is that women’s bodies get stronger after each male baby. The more older brother’s a man has will increase the likelyhood that he is more feminine. That doesn’t necessarily make the baby gay, but increased the possibility.
      The most likely truth is that biology and environment plays a role.
      Environment’s effects cannot be disproved, because there were entie societies of gay-friendly males in the ancient world.

  5. Can someone please give some examples of how a person becomes gay because of their environment? I didn’t become straight because of my environment! I like girls right from the beginning. And how many times have you heard a gay person say ‘I knew I wasn’t like the other kids when I was very young’… I believe most people are born with a natural attraction and the rest may be because of their environment…

    1. You like girls because that’s what you were brought up to do. Before you could comprehend liking, it was already ingrained in you. How many times have you heard someone say, “your two month old baby, is going to marry my newborn.” If you grew up in a tribe in Papau New Guinea which has the tradition of pairing guys for life. The men live in couples outside of the village and only enter so they can sleep with women to make babies. The rest of the time they hunt and provide food. There was a British anthropologist who actually joined the tribe and has a male lover. How do you explain that every single man in that tribe sleeps with other men. Environment plays a major role! You can’t honestly believe that every guy was born with an attraction to men; can you? Studying people at the most primal level is the best way to gain an understanding of why people live how they do.

  6. Most men are born with a natural attraction to women! That’s why they’re born with a penis to put inside the females vagina! Otherwise you would pee out of hole in your crotch!

  7. So from what I gather, you believe a majority of the men in the world like women and a majority of the women in the world like men because of society and not natural instict??

    1. I think if we left people to decide, they would probably all be bisexual. I think society places certain taboos on everyone. We are all shaped by what is taught to be natural. Human nature is to please the individual.

  8. Interesting that u used ‘they’ in regards to people choosing to be bisexual …if that’s what u believe about people, You should have said ‘we’!

    1. I used they because it’s a hypothetical situation. We are all effected by our environment. The real world doesn’t apply to the previous statement. Everything we do, is shaped by our suroundings.

  9. So if u, Peter, were not taught like girls only, you’d be banging dudes occasionally?

  10. Then we’ll have to agree to disagree… I’m leaning towards the gay gene theory…Something in their chemical make up causes them to behave more feminine/masculine and feel attraction towards the same sex… It is not a choice! It’s what feels right for them! I don’t like big tits and a fat ass cuz it was suggested! I knew i was attracted to pretty girls when I was 5 yrs old, for Pete’s sakes!(Who is Pete anyway?)

    1. Ha ha. It’s all about throwing out ideas. I think we both agree that it has nothing to do with choice. I say environment and you say gene. One day someone who is more intelligent than the two of us will solve the mystery.

  11. You called for someone more intelligent…here I am! Sorry was busy at my MENSA meeting. We proved the theory that broncos fans tend to be on the lower end of the IQ scale. It should come as no surprise but finally we have scientific proof! So to enlighten you both: Bulimundo is right, Peter is wrong. You’re Welcome!

    Ok back to MENSA, we’re working on a resuscitation app! Maybe for the iphone 13, hopefully that won’t be too late for Steve!

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