Relationships are like a box of chocolates; great at the beginning, but eventually you get sick to your stomach! (Just kidding; I think!)
To read my thoughts on love and relationships, read these two previous posts: What’s Love Got To Do With It, and The Worst Quote Ever.
Relationships are complicated. They’re actually like snowflakes; no two are alike. It’s great to have friends and family members to share advice, but the truth of the matter is, people have to figure things out for themselves. We will all make dumb decisions and mistakes will happen more often than not, but life is about experiences; most people will find their way, unless the individual is a dumbass.
Since I covered the topic in the previous two posts, this entry will only deal with past relationships. I touched upon the subject before, but I will expand. It is important for people to free themselves from bad relationships as soon as possible; there is no need to spend a second being unhappy. Do not be afraid to be single.
That being said, I believe people can rekindle a past relationship. The key is to avoid thinking that some unseen force, “god,” cupid, or astrology, has anything to do with the two people giving the relationship the old college try.
Just because a relationship didn’t work in the past doesn’t mean that it can’t be successful. First, each person must take a hard look within themselves in order to figure out why the first attempt failed. Once this first step is completed, the couple should sit down and have a candid discussion. The two people will have gone through new experiences and each person will be different then they previously were. There will be a period of getting to know each other.
It is important to let go of the old problems; they no longer exists and more importantly, they don’t matter. The couple can look back and laugh at their arguments, but a second relationship will not last if either person hasn’t moved on from the past nonsense.
Do yourselves a favor and ignore the negative comments. There will be people who give advice but they won’t know the entire story so thank them and forget what they say. This is your life and you have to live it the way you see fit. Even if the advice ends up being true and the second attempt fails miserably, you took a chance and that’s never a bad thing.
Remember that this new relationship is a NEW RELATIONSHIP. Although the two people dated previously, they will have a new perspective on life. Take the time to get to know one another. (There may even be some new moves in the bedroom!)
***Don’t ask how the person learned the moves, just enjoy yourself!***
Second chance relationships are no different than all other relationships; it may work out, but most likely it won’t. The failure of such a union has nothing to do with the past; relationships are hard and most people are selfish. Advice is worth the money you paid for it; you are intelligent and the advice that you give to yourself is probably better than the words of an idiot. (I apologize if the last sentence gave the perception that every person is intelligent!)
People will spread their negativity regardless of the path you take. Do your best to please yourself and the rest will fall into place. Don’t ever base your decisions on what has been done before. You may be better than anyone who has ever walked the earth. Set trends and go after what you want.
If you’re happy, nothing else matters!
Great post! I especially liked how you ended it.
the reason your rtiheionsalps dont last is not your fault ill tell you why. men have to feel a physical attraction as well as an emotion connection with a woman. a man can walk up to any woman and feel a physical connection i.e sexual chemistry. but if he has no emotional connection it will never work. men are extremely confusing creatures i swear but they are generally looking for a lifetime mate someone who is physically and emotianially healthy, someone who can give him healthy children and be stable enough to raise them. i could go on and on. but i basically outlined why its not u its him the sayin is true. we as women can try and try to impress but he wants what he wants. and for god sake dont ever let ur self esteem drop, keep a smile on ur face. confidence and a smile gets u noticed.
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