The easiest thing anyone can do is read this entry and dismiss what I have to say as nonsense, but what I am writing is simply the truth. I’ve heard people say, “The truth hurts!” This entry may sting a little!
There is one quote that people have held near and dear to their hearts since hunters and gatherers established their first communities.
“If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours for life!”
I hate to burst your collective bubbles, but that quote is hogwash! That’s right…Pig bath! (That’s what hog wash means, right?)
I agree with the first part of the statement. If someone does not want to be with you, let the person go. There is no such thing as meant to be. If someone feels that they no longer want to be with you, or someone is not treating you the way you deserve, let them go and move on to a better relationship or the freedom of being single. You shouldn’t have to work hard to get your partner to like you; they should like you for who you are!
Under no circumstances should a person ever become a psycho and fight to keep someone in their lives. Love doesn’t exist, but if it did, it wouldn’t consist of begging. If someone cares about you and he or she wants to be with you, you should expect to be treated with respect.
“What do you mean love doesn’t exist?” Love is like religion; it’s a belief. To love means to have faith. There are no astrological signs and no “meant to be!” Those types of fantasies are fun to think about, but people have to be careful not to forget what is actually real; life is more complicated than fairy-tales. The Disney movies and Pretty Woman are not reality. Prince Charming is not going to sweep you off of your feet. (Prince charming is not out there looking for a prostitute! In fact, he doesn’t even exist! STOP LOOKING FOR HIM!)
There are two types of people. A person is either a free spirit who wants to experience many new partners, or a person is looking to be with one partner in a committed relationship. If you are a free spirit, stop involving yourself in relationships; you’ll only create a psycho. If you want to be in a committed relationship, but you find yourself fighting to get your partner to commit, end the relationship; it’s not going to happen!
Obviously, people can change, but you cannot change someone. They have to want to change for themselves. Stop fighting, it’s a losing battle. You can remain with a cheater and hope that one day he or she will stop, which can happen! But why would you risk it. Do you really expect a person to stop cheating once you have created an environment where cheating is accepted. If you continue to welcome back your partner after he or she has been unfaithful, the pattern will only continue and the behavior will get worse. (Being single is not as bad as people make it out to be!)
Don’t let some bullshit word like “love” keep you in an unhealthy relationship. Care about yourself and leave the cheater. Even if the person is not a cheater, but mistreats you, or isn’t compatible with you, leave!
The second part of the quote is what I have the most problem with. If someone comes back after you have let them go, it’s not because of love or some fantasy ending. The person just came back! There are many reasons why people come back to old lovers. Don’t be fooled and think it has to do with real love. Don’t allow the person to mistreat you, and be wary of the person’s intentions. Always respect yourselves and expect to be treated properly.
The problem with most relationships is the fact that people focus on the potential for a great fairytale conclusion, instead of realizing that they are with the wrong partner. People will hold on to the few times in which their partner did something special expecting that the person will change and treat them special all of the time. If someone only makes you feel special on few occasions, you are with the wrong person. STOP EXPECTING THAT THINGS WILL GET BETTER! (The two of you have defined the relationship and your partner is content with how things are!) Holding on to potential is a losing battle!
Everyone expects that a past lover will return as a new and improved person, which may be the case in some rare situations, but for the most part, people are who they are. What you can truly expect is that your partner will return with NEW STDs! How fantastic is that?
Do yourselves a favor and stop looking to the sky for answers. Evaluate your situation for what it is and make a decision based on facts. You’ll avoid a ton of unnecessary bullshit!
P.S. Remember that astrology is for entertainment purposes only. If you are in a relationship and your partner knows that you follow your daily horoscope, you’re placing yourself at a great disadvantage.
Example: Girl reads horoscope. “You will be faced with a difficult challenge. Be forgiving and your love life will be strengthened.”
Guy reads the same thing, cheats on girl and asks for forgiveness!
Good Luck believing in such nonsense!